Winning – Day 12 Of The Love Dare

Winning – Day 12 Of The Love Dare.  Give in to a disagreement  by putting your spouses preference first. Today’s challenge is perfect for those (me?!?!) who hardly ever see eye to eye, who are like night and day, or like fire and ice with their spouses. And while some may say if you can’t agree on things, then why on earth would you stay together? Maybe because opposites attract. We balance each other out. His good is to my bad and visa versa.

Or maybe, as today’s challenge explains, perhaps it is about compromise and not always needing to be the winner. And as hard as that is to do, especially with two strong Taurus bulls like us, who either wear each other down or never really resolve our battles, it is a challenge worth taking. So how about it – you up for today’s dare?

Day 12 – Love Let’s The Other Win

Do not merely look out for your own personal interests, but also for the interest of others ~ Philippians 2:4

Demonstrate love by willingly choosing to give in to an area of disagreement between you and your spouse. Tell them you are putting their preference first.

What is the word that is opposite of stubbornness? it is willingness. Willingness is an attitude and spirit of cooperation that should permeate our conversations.

“Have this attitude in yourselves which was also in Christ Jesus” Philippians 2:5 – the attitude of willingness, flexibility, and humble submission. It means laying down for the good of others what you have the right to claim for yourself.

All it takes for your present argument to continue is for both of you to stay entrenched and unbending. But the very moment one of you says, “I’m willing to go your way on this one,” the argument will be over. And though the follow-through may cost you a few moments of pride and discomfort, you have made a living, lasting investment in your marriage.

Put Your Spouses Preferences First

The wise and loving thing to do is to start approaching your disagreements with the willingness to not always insist on your own way. You are choosing to give strong consideration to their preference as a way of valuing them. Instead of treating your wife or husband as an enemy or someone to be guarded against, start treating them as your closest, most honored friend. Give their words full weight.

No you won’t always see eye to eye. You’re not supposed to be carbon copies of each other. If you were, one of you would be unnecessary. Two people who always share the same opinion and perspectives won’t have any balance or flavor to enhance the relationship. Rather, your differences are for listening to and learning from.

Give In To An Area Of Disagreement

Are you willing to bend to demonstrate love to your spouse? Are you refusing to give in because of pride? if it doesn’t matter in the long run, especially in eternity, then giving up your rights will be a loving way to bring delight to the one you love. It will likely be good for you and for your marriage. Surrendering the battle may actually be the best way to greater victory.