Understanding – Day 18 Of The Love Dare

Understanding – Day 18 Of The Love Dare.  Focus on really getting to know your spouse and trying to understand them better.

Day 18 – Love Seeks To Understand

How blessed is the man who finds wisdom, and the main who gains understanding ~ Proverbs 3:13

THE DARE – prepare a special dinner at home, just for the two of you. The dinner can be as nice as you prefer. Focus this time on getting to know your spouse better, perhaps in areas you’ve rarely talked about. Determined to make it enjoyable evening for you and your mate.

How much do you know about your mate?

• Do you know his or her greatest hopes and dreams?
• Do you fully understand how they prefer to give and receive love?
• Do you know what your spouses greatest fears are and why they struggle with them?

“We tend to “revile” those things we don’t understand”

Some of the problems you have In relating to your spouse are simply because you don’t understand them. We all have differences. These differences, even the ones that are relatively insignificant, can be the cause of many fights and conflicts in your marriage. That’s because as the Bible says, “we tend to “revile” those things we don’t understand” – Jude 10.

If you miss the level of intimacy you once shared with your spouse, one of the best ways to unlock their heart again is by making a commitment to know them. Study them. Read them like a book you’re trying to understand. A treasure chest to be unlocked.

Ask questions. “The ear of the wise seeks knowledge” – Proverbs 18:15. Love takes the initiative to begin conversations. In order to get your mate to open up, they need to know that your desire for understanding them is real and genuine love.

The goal of understanding your make is to hear them

Listen. “A fool does not delight in understanding, but only in revealing his own mind.” – Proverbs 8:2. The goal of understanding your mate is to hear them, not merely to tell him what you think. Even if your spouse is not very talkative, love calls you to draw out “deep water” that dwells within them.

Ask God for discernment. “The Lord gives wisdom, from his mouth come knowledge and understanding” – Proverbs 2:6.  Things like gender differences, family backgrounds, and varied life experiences can cloud your ability to know your mates heart and motivations. But God is a giver of wisdom. He can show you what you need in order to know how to love your spouse better.

There is a depth of beauty and meaning inside your wife or husband that will amaze you as you discover more of it. Make him or her your chosen field of study, and you will fill your home with the kind of riches only love can provide.

Did you like Understanding – Day 18 Of The Love Dare 40 Day Challenge?  Let me know what you think.  And if you missed any of the other days, check out the The Love Dare series here, where I’m going through the 40 days myself.  Much love 🙂