Thoughtful – Day 4 Of The Love Dare

Day 4 Of The 40 Day Challenge – Love Is Thoughtful.  So far we’ve challenged ourselves to being patient, kind and not selfish – three acts that need to continue throughout our daily lives. And as easy as they may seem, there will be times when you find yourself falling short – trust me, it will happen. But as we know change does not occur overnight, especially if you’ve been married for hundreds of years (gross exaggeration I know, but sometimes it feels like it). Just forgive yourself for yesterday’s shortcomings and keep moving forward because as the old adage goes – practice does makes perfect.

So today’s challenge is being thoughtful. And because men and women are wired differently (summarized perfectly in the book Men are From Mars, Women are From Venus), the results may not be the same for husband and wives. So ladies – just be patient with your man because all you can do is work on you – your part of being “thoughtful”. And here’s some food for thought – thoughtlessness is a silent enemy to a loving relationship.

So there you have it. Go ahead and try an act of THOUGHTFULNESS today – I dare you 🙂

Day 4 – Love Is Thoughtful

Contact your spouse sometime during the business of the day. Have no agenda other than asking how he or she is doing and if there is anything you could do for them.

How precious also are your thoughts to me … How vast is the sum of them? If I should count them, they would outnumber the sand.

Psalm 139:17-18

Love thinks. It’s not a mindless feeling that rides on waves of emotion and falls asleep mentally. It keeps busy in thought, knowing that loving thoughts precede loving actions.

Love requires thoughtfulness, on both sides, the kind that builds bridges through the constructive combination of patience, kindness, and selflessness. Love teaches you to meet in the middle, to respect and appreciate how your spouse uniquely thinks.

A husband should listen to his wife and learn to be considerate of her unspoken messages. A wife should learn to communicate truthfully and not say one thing and mean another.

The thoughtful nature of love teaches you to engage your mind before engaging your lips. Love thinks before speaking. It filters words through a grid of truth and kindness.

Great marriages come from great thinking.

If you missed any of the other days, check out the The Love Dare series here, where I’ll be going through the 40 days myself.