Jealousy – Day 8 Of The Love Dare

Jealousy – Day 8 Of The Love Dare and the two forms of jealousy: a legitimate jealousy based on love, and an illegitimate jealousy based on envy.  Wow – get ready for today’s challenge.

Day 8 – Love Is Not Jealous

Love is as strong as death, it’s jealousy unyielding as the grave. It burns like blazing fire ~ Song of Solomon 8:6 niv

Determine to become your spouses biggest fan and reject any thoughts of jealousy. To help you set your heart and your spouse and focus on their achievements, take yesterday’s list of negative attributes and discreetly burn it. Then share with your spouse how glad you are about a success or blessing he or she recently enjoyed.

Jealousy is one of the strongest drives known to man. Scripture says “wrath is fierce and anger is a flood, but who can stand before jealousy?” Proverbs 27:4

There are two forms of jealousy: a legitimate jealousy based on love, and an illegitimate jealousy based on envy. Legitimate jealousy sparks when someone you love turns his or her heart away and replaces you with someone else. And an illegitimate kind of jealousy is one that is rooted in selfishness – this is to be jealous of someone to be moved with envy.

Jealousy is a common struggle. It is sparked when someone upstages you and gets something you want. This can be very painful depending upon how selfish you are. Jealousy slithers like a viper into your heart and strikes your motivations and relationships. The Bible says that envy leads to fighting, quarreling, and every evil thing.

You don’t usually get jealous of disconnected strangers. The ones you’re tempted to be jealous of are primarily in the same arena with you. When you’re married you were given the role of becoming your spouses biggest cheerleader and the captain of his or her fan club. Both of you become one in life and are to share in the enjoyment of the other. But if selfishness rules, any good thing happening to only one of you can be a catalyst for envy rather than congratulations.

Love is not selfish and refuses to let jealousy in

Because love is not selfish and puts others first, it refuses to let jealousy in. A loving husband does not mind his wife being better at something, having more fun, or getting more applause. He sees her as completing him, not competing with him.

When he receives praise, he publicly thanks her for her support in aiding his own success. He refuses to brag in such a way that may cause her to resent him. A loving wife will be the first to cheer for him and when he wins. She does not compare her weaknesses to his strengths. She throws a celebration, not a pity party.

It is time to let love, humility, and gratefulness destroy any jealousy that springs up in your heart. It’s time to let your mates successes draw you closer together and give you greater opportunities to start the music and throw the confetti.

So take the challenge today and get rid of any jealousy you may  have.  You’ll be amazed at how fulfilled you’ll feel.  Peace !!

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