Impossible – Day 19 Of The Love Dare

Impossible – Day 19 of the Love Dare – your need for God to change your heart to give you His ability to love your spouse

Day 19 – Love Is Impossible

Let us love one another, for love is from God; and everyone who loves is born of God and knows God ~ 1 John 4:7

THE DARE – Look back over the dares from previous days. Do they reveal a difficulty in your ability to love your spouse? Did some seem impossible? Have you realized your need for God to change your heart to give you His ability to love? Ask Him to show you where you stand with Him and to give you the grace to seek Him, find Him, and walk with Him.

The Love Dare starts with a secret and the secret is this. You cannot manufacture unconditional love (agape love) out of your own imperfect heart. Yes, you may be able to demonstrate kindness and patience at times. And while you may have learned to be more thoughtful and considerate than before, the task of sincerely consistently loving someone unselfishly and unconditionally is another matter altogether.

How many times has your love proven incapable of controlling your anger?

How many times, for example, has your love failed to keep you from manipulating, from lusting or envying, from over reacting or exaggerating, or from thinking judgmental thoughts? Or how many times has your love proven incapable of controlling your anger? And how many times has your love failed to motivate you to willingly apologize, fully forgive, or bring about a peaceable end to an ongoing argument?

It’s this failure that exposes mankind’s sinful condition. Our own sinful condition. We’ve all fallen short of God’s standards and commands. We’ve all demonstrated selfishness, hatred and pride.

You cannot give what you don’t have, especially if you’re only looking within yourself to find it. You need another source – and that other source is God.

Love is from God – enter into a daily relationship with Him

Love is from God. When we turn away from our selfishness and sincerely ask Jesus to step into our lives and take control of us, that is when our deepest need for love is met and our greatest ability to love begins. By entering into a daily relationship with Jesus, you can “know the love of Christ which passes knowledge, that you may be filled with all the fullness of God.” Ephesians 3:19. You can then love. Unconditionally.

The truth is, you cannot live without Him and you cannot love without Him. But there is no telling what He can do in your marriage if you choose to put your trust in Him.

Did you like Impossible – Day 19 Of The Love Dare 40 Day Challenge?  Let me know what you think.  And if you missed any of the other days, check out the The Love Dare series here, where I’m going through the 40 days myself.  Much love 🙂